In the past few months, I have been talking to mothers of all ages, to understand how and what went through them while they were pregnant. Yesterday, it so happened that I was talking to my husband's granny who is a mother of 8 children Actually she had 10 children but only 8 saw the world. Her first and last child has a difference nearly 30 years. She was saying she used to have worse morning sickness every time and her 30 years was spent in pregnancy.
After hearing all those story I am having a weird feeling. I am just nearing 5 months and I feel being pregnant or bringing up a kid is not an easy task. All my time and thought is devoted to the baby. I don't want to be a compulsive mom. But I think its natural. We all want our baby to be good and health. I have made so much lifestyle changes that I have already started missing some thing I really love, like junk food, traveling etc. I know I can't indulge in all these things for another 1 - 2 yrs. I am finding it difficult but before the baby these things seem insignificant. But doing that for 30 years, about 1/2 of the life time seems unimaginable and scary.
Anyway I am not planning to have so many. First let me have one. Then may be other. Thats it. I think though my next 10-15 years will be devoted to bringing up the baby(ies), I will like to do things that I love. Huh.. I am really confused now. Will I be a bad mom? Have you felt the same? Do anyone feel there is a life other than kids also?
Hello pavithra,
ReplyDeleteMe again...
Chill gal... relax.... at that time (during ur granny's days) having 8-10 children was okay... my grandparents (both mom's and dad's parents) had 6 children each!! but have you noted those people didnt have other health issues like we have... dont you think so?? (my grandma had her teeth (almost all of them) proper till she was 85+!! without tooth filling or anything... but i have most of my tooths filled with silver or white cement from past few years itself (from age of 20 itself)) and as per my mom my grandmother (dad's mom) had labour pain for 5 days... do u think we can bear so much pain???
before they didnt know the gender or any other problems the baby had until it was born... now with advanced medical technology you can find the gender (though not in India) and also find if the baby is healthy and growing well... am i right??
so relax dear... and be enjoy ur journey to your motherhood well...
be happy always!!
keep smiling!!